
B turns 21!
B is 21 today! It is amazing that 21 years have passed since the day she arrived in this world. My pregnancy was fairly awful with her, having already lost several pregnancies prior to hers and then having all sorts of issues for until 32 weeks when, finally, the specialist said the baby seemed ok… though had short legs for her gestatioinal age!
Her birth was no less drama than the pregnancy because at 32 weeks she decided to rotate so that her head was up under my ribs with one foot down in my pelvis and the other one up near her head. The doctor at this point did not realise this and indicated that I was obviously a neurotic mother who just “thought her baby wasn’t kicking” and sent me off to King Edward Memorial for CTG testing. The nurse strapped on the baby monitor to my stomach and told me that I would see the babies kicking as marks on the paper coming out of the monitor. Half and hour passed and there was no mark on the paper. After a couple of hours eventually it appeared the baby was alive however, strangely lethargic and definitely something was wrong. It is amazing in hind sight that I was not sent for an ultrasound, instead once a week for the next 9, I had to return to the

Brother & Sister....B & M - B
hospital for another CTG to check for movement. My specialist met with me every fortnight and still he would not believe that ’something was not right’. I could hardly breath when I was standing, let alone sitting down B was so high up under my ribs my diaphragm almost didn’t allow me to breath. When I sat down it was as if I was sitting on a stick for the sharp pain that would occur in my pelvis. Apparently “just normal” said the doctor. At this point he told me B would be a “whopper of at least 9 1/2 lb”.
Finally at 39 weeks at my constant “whinging” Dr Turner said “ok, I’ll just do a quick ultasound to check the babies position because something does not feel right”. Yeah well I told him this 8 weeks ago! I couldn’t believe that the ultrasound was in his room all this time and instead of just doing a quick check weeks ago. Of course, he was totally shocked to see the position that B was laying in….. big head up under my ribs with a foot up next to her face and a foot down bouncing off my cervix. Yes, well… I could have told the specialist this if he had bothered listening to me 2 months before. Having a foot bouncing on your cervix does cause ongoing pain… particularly when you sit! Having a babies head the size of a rockmelon wedged up under your diaphragm can cause difficulty in breathing!

Me & B
Dr Turner said not a word to me but picked up the phone and rang SJofG hospital to book a caesarean. It seemed that B’s grand finale also was going to be difficult. Dr Turner put the phone down and explained that it was impossible for the baby to be born naturally and that I was to pack my back and be at the hospital that afternoon for a caesarean the next afternoon and that I needed to be in hospital in case labour started. After months and months of exercise classes for a ‘normal birth’ I was shocked that I was sitting there being told my baby’s exact arrival date and time.
Dr Turner’s “bed side manner” was just shocking - he did not explain about epidurals and generals and the pros and cons of each. Instead he insisted I book an epidural for the caesarian. At my doctor’s disgust I booked a general anaesthetic and that I wanted B’s dad to be there at the birth. Apparently this was against regulations for a general anaesthetic! In the end B’s dad was asked to stay out of the theatre until moments before she was lifted out of me. One of the nice assistants took photos - she was born on a Friday at 4.29pm.
When I woke in recovery I was handed B bundled up in a white cloth. She had a heap of dark hair and she was just perfect. B, unlike her pregnancy, was the perfect baby in all ways. She was a very content and happy baby. She grew into a content and happy toddler who did not go through the terrible 2’s but was placid and smiling. She walked on her 1st birthday. By the age of 2 her hair was long down to her waist. She happily went off to pre-school the year she turned 5 and not a tear was shed. In fact, B’s past 21 years as followed this pattern…. now as a young woman she is not only my daughter, but also my friend and she brings much happiness into my life.